A wise woman recently told me that ‘if it takes away your peace it’s too expensive’ and in terms of thing’s I’m sure she found on Pinterest it really struck a chord with me. I am not sure when exactly I realized that I didn’t have enough emotional or physical energy left for the things in my life that I really cared about, maybe it was when I realized I didn’t feel connected to the organizations I had formerly been so proud to be apart of. Maybe it was when I realized I spent more time in the day worrying and stressing than actually enjoying my life. I’ve recently come to the conclusion that I am not living the life I want to live. I set out with great intentions, I wanted to be a good friend, student, daughter, sister but somewhere along the way I stopped being all of those things and at the end of the day I didn’t like who I was or how I felt about anything.
It was only then that I decided to start living my life the way that I choose. I want to live a life that I’m excited to wake up to in the morning. Now I’m not exactly sure how I’m going to do that or where to start. It seemed impossible when I was dealing with the stresses of school, sorority, and work. These things were the paramount reasons I was stressed and now that the semester has ended and so have sorority activities until the fall I am going to take more time to focus on myself, to become the a person that I’m proud of, a person that I know I can be.
It is officially that time of year when the difficult now seems impossible. With classes wrapping up and the holidays seemingly farther and farther away I have fallen into a slump. This typically happens once or twice or ten times a semester. I have compiled list of things that I have done, and continue to do in order to power through.
Netflix and Chill (with yourself): I have been marathoning Bones from season one (for the first time) and lets just say thinking about hopping into bed and curling up with an hour long murder mystery helps get me through a long day.
Get a Mani-Pedi: This can be a tricky one if you’re not financially prepared to splurge at a nice salon but one of the things I’ve always found enviably true is that my life feels more put together with my nails done. Even if that means treating myself to going out and having someone else doing my nails or sucking it up and doing them myself.
Date Yourself: Pull out that book you’ve been meaning to read since the beginning of the semester (cough cough Harry Potter) and finally get to it. I take myself to Starbucks and get a coffee and grab a seat. Sometimes getting lost in a different world is the best way to feel energized enough to face this one.
Get a Hobby: It doesn’t have to be anything expensive, or time consuming, something that you can do when you want and where you want. For me that is blogging, for some people that is going to a yoga class, or coloring. The key thing about a hobby is that you can’t let it stress you out because then it becomes something you’re not doing for fun.
Play Dress Up: Pick a girlfriend or two or three and go to the mall and try on cute dresses. Maybe go crazy and get fro-yo. You don’t have to buy anything (and sometimes you shouldn’t) but just trying on super expensive dresses or ball gowns you will never have the need for can be fun and good way to unwind.